11 rules

The following is a list of 11 parenting rules we think should be followed during the first year:
Rule #11 - Enjoy every moment, because it will pass. I remember thinking, when is he gonna start walking and getting in trouble? I'm there now, and it's cool. But those little times with no words, just stares, were amazing too. They are seeds of sweetness planted deep inside of him.

Rule #10 - When the baby cries, check this. Check if the baby is hungry, then check if he's tired, then check if he needs a diaper change. Lastly, make sure his little foot is not touching the cold water bottle attached to your running belt while you're carrying him.... oh... nevermind... that was just me.

Rule #9 - Trust your instincts. You know what's best for your baby. Well, I know. Call me. Unless it's past 10 PM in which case you should call your Pediatrician.


Rule #8 - Diaper changing is a shared task. Thinking I could negotiate my way out of doing this was foolish. And you know what, it's not that bad.

Rule #7 - Pack for the unexpected. When going out, take extra diapers, wipes, blankets, clothes, and food. You will eventually need all of it.
Rule #6 - Every month gets easier. Really. Unless you're a whiner about having to keep an eye on him when he walks. If you are, get over it. He's discovering his surroundings. If you want it to go smoothly, follow the next rule.
Rule #5 - Baby proof the house as soon as he/she sits up. Best to get it done early. Outlets, cabinet doors, things that break. Also, we're just learning that the taller he gets, the more stuff he can reach. And pull.
Rule #4 - Create a consistent sleep routine. Sleep deprivation may be the number one complaint of new parents. You can't do much when she's eating every 2 hours in the beginning, but by month 6, you should be developing sleep routines that may involve dinner, bath time, a quick read or cuddle time, and then sleep. Baby video monitors are God sent.
Rule #3 - Take time to reconnect with your significant other. It's just as important as caring for your baby. Make a conscious effort to find out how they're doing, how they're feeling, have non-baby discussions. Have a date every once in a while. Movies, dinner, you know, recharge the batteries.
Rule #2 - If you're ever lost, ask yourself - how can I make my baby feel secure? that is the most important thing to a little person. Feeling safe. Don't think that letting newborns cry in their crib "toughens them up" or prevents them from "being spoiled". Those are old misconceptions. When a newborn wakes up he has no idea of where he is. Make him feel safe!!!
Rule #1 - Give them your best. This is something Carlos, Tyce's godfather talked to me about. Bad day at work? give them your smile and love. Mad at somebody? give them your smile and love. Avoid arguing in front of the little ones. They may not understand the words, but their little sponge brains understand stress, and are very sensitive to feelings.

Do we have all the answers? I'd like to think so, but Maria tells me we don't. I trust her. I hope you trust these 11 basic rules to guide your way through that unforgettable first year.